About You.

Many clients who land here are those trying to find or reclaim their right to recognition. Childhood trauma ties us to a one dimensional identity, often that of “The Problem” or “The Solution”. These identities often map onto attachment styles too.

Those who were seen as “The Problem” feel that their needs are ‘too much’ or not worthy, and therefore have learned to move through the world quietly, trusting selectively or not at all because caregivers were unreliable or minimizing. Understanding or expressing what one is feeling is foreign, unsafe, or pointless because others have taught us to be small or invisible. 

Those who were seen as “The Solution” often feel as if they ‘grew up too fast’. Caregivers relied upon them to take care of themselves as well as people around them, and validation only came as a result of doing for other people. The adulthood experience for children praised for their caretaking is often the tendency to people-please, and fear that one will be abandoned if they aren’t what others expect them to be. 

The reality is many of us also fall somewhere in the middle, because how we cope with unfulfilled needs and failed connection is not static. No matter where you fall on this spectrum, I promise to meet you where you are at and centralize your worth at all times. Through the repairing therapeutic relationship, we learn to shed the label of “The Problem” or “The Solution” and create a sense of self on our own terms. 

How do I know if we’re the right fit?

I believe the therapist-client relationship is more like alchemy than an equation: you do not have to be a certain type of person to find harmony with me as a therapist. However, the approaches I use are centered around similar worldviews and ways of connecting. If you see or hear yourself in the descriptions I offer below, we are likely to find our cadence, trust, and safety earlier on in the process. 

If you do not see yourself reflected in the descriptions below, I encourage you to keep the door open. We just may spend more time understanding how your mind approaches healing and connection and co-create a style of therapy that blends my approaches and your own needs.

Reach out to connect with me through an initial consult call, where we’ll get to know each other and hold space for any questions you have before deciding to move forward.

Eye Movement and Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR)

A trauma-processing modality using bilateral stimulation (tapping or eye movements) to resolve stuck trauma

Accelerated Experiential Psychodynamic Therapy (AEDP)

Reframing “negative coping” as ways you protect yourself from pain and moving below protections to find the deep emotions trauma blocks and connect to your core self 

Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT)

Mapping the cycle of triggers, emotions, thoughts, and responses that occur in response to your partner’s internal cycle and rebuilding healthy communication of needs and desires

Inclusivity

Centering understanding of your core needs around your identities, values, and roles within a social justice framework